Get Real!

I was just having a conversation with a friend the other day. I was asking him so have you proposed to your girlfriend? He said what is the point of marriage. He can get married but what is the point of getting married, be committed to it and then later stay together when your heart is no longer there. "I don't see the point," he claims

I got to make this point. That is, he seems like a okay guy lah. Not the kind that pubs or clubs or smokes. He is helpful, friendly and in general, nice. But I just don't understand how he had such a warped idea about marriage.

I had a lot of things running in my mind as he shared his point of view. But I just didn't want to say them.

From his point of view, I guess what he is trying to put across and how the society is impacting his point of view is this:
The society is opened now.
You can cohabit together without a legal marriage bond.
You can even indulged in prematrital sex. Many people are doing it. (I mean the media is promoting it and subconsiously our mindsets are influenced as such that sex is a normal thing for 2 dating people, one-night is normal, lust is love etc etc)
Single parents are also getting more and more common.
Marriage and then divorce, common.

Looking at it superficially, yeah, what is the point of marriage?
You can cohabit, do whatever you want to do with each other, even have kids without proper marriage.

Why do you want to go to the extent of spending many thousand dollars for a banquet, to be recognised. As long as we are in love and happy right?
WRONG!

The whole idea about marriage is commitment.
People may not realise it but commitment has become this BIG word that many people, including myself but am working on it, are trying to avoid these days.
The importance of being commited is very important to be successful in life.
Can you list me one thing that you can do successfully without being commited? Even shitting you need to commit. You need to commit yourself to giving yourself a few minutes and concentrate on your business in order for it to be successful. Haha. Gross but true.

For us, Christians, marriage is not just a ceremony.
Marriage is covenant.
Marriage when blessed in the eyes of God will bring you blessings upon blessings.
Marriage fulfills your purpose in life (unless you are specifically called to celibacy)

You basically CANNOT commit to a person without marriage.
Marriage brings security to your spouse and your children, even to yourself.

Sex within marriage is spiritually significant and a blessing from God.
If you think that 2 become 1 comes from a nice pop song by Spice Girl. You did be surprised that 2 become 1 within a marriage covenant is the word of God found in the book of Genesis.
Sex outside marriage brings havoc and chaos into your life.


GET REAL!
If you claim to love a girl and do cherish her, marry her and do not waste her youth.